Three days from now I’ll be a 1-month old wife. Hurrahhh!!! It still feels like it was only yesterday when we were just planning our garden wedding (click on this link for our wedding SDE).
As I’ve shared in my recent posts, our courtship, dating, and wedding preparations all happened in just one year. BUT, even if I was 95% sure that my boyfriend then (now husband) is the one for me, there were times before we wed that I needed to question my decision of saying “yes” to him. The questioning was more of an act of securing wisdom rather than doubting.
Entering married life needs a firm decision of changing our lives, not just our surname and status. That’s why I had to question my emotions back then. Was it so high that I’m so giddy to be married? Or, was it so low that it made me needy for a marriage? Thankfully, my emotions then were balanced that I was able to squeeze wisdom in it.
December 2017 when Julius (my husband) and I came out in the public as a couple. When January 2018 came, I needed to ask him, “What’s your vision for your future?” His response didn’t sound and feel right for me. I was troubled and disappointed to the point that I considered a breakup. Why? Because I don’t think I can be with a man who doesn’t have a clear vision in life. I told Julius that I cannot marry him if he still don’t know where he wants to go. I love him but I don’t want to be lost with him. If he is uncertain of his future, then my future and our children’s future will be at risk.
A man who doesn’t have a vision for his life is worst than a blind man.
That’s why we, women, should never be with a man who will only tell us “let’s just go with the flow.” Clearly that man (probably a boy) don’t have a vision. Either you’ll get yourself drown with him or you’ll get tired floating to the unknown.
Thankfully, Julius responded in faith and actions. His responses were assurance that I will not face the unknown tomorrow blindly with him. Thus, the wedding was pursued.
During our wedding preparations, Julius found an amazing vision for his future (which is the same as mine). While searching for a wedding venue, the very first one we visited was Our Haven Events Place in Indang, Cavite. The owners of the place are very much accomodating and kind. They have a lovely home turned into a bed & breakfast and now an event place with a swimming pool, outdoor area for team building activities, a tree house, an amphitheater, and more bed & breakfast rooms to accomodate more guests. If I’m not mistaken it’s more than a 2-hectare area surrounded by trees and pineapples.
It was such a haven in the middle of the woods. We really wanted to get married there but because our wedding fall on a Monday and it is a bit far from the Metro, we opted for a nearer venue. Still, Julius and I decided to have our prenup photoshoot there.
My friends who were with us when we visited the place for our prenup photoshoot said that driving there gave them “the feels” in one part of the movie Crazy Rich Asians. I can’t agree with them because I haven’t watched it yet. But, they too loved the place. It is good for intimate or large garden weddings and will surely suit all themes. Aside from events, Our Haven is perfect for staycations, picnics, teambuildings, and glamping! This is why I highly recommend the place. Check out their social media pages below to see more of its beauty.
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/OurHavenIndang/
Our Haven Events Place is so captivating that it becomes an instrument for Julius to have a glimpse of our family’s future. He now envisions to have a home with a beautiful garden and a backyard farm as lovely (may be not as big) as the one in Our Haven’s, where the two of us can retire and welcome family, friends, missionaries, and guests. We can work together now to build that retirement home (or business) in God’s perfect time (and provisions).
My then boyfriend’s vision is aligned with mine. If it wasn’t, then I wouldn’t marry him. Why? Because two different people with different visions will definitely go to different directions.
Our shared vision from God is an assurance that the two of us can be one.
All photos are from Ram Marcelo Photography, our official wedding photographer.