It’s More Than Just an Initial

Yesterday, I was asked if my name was correctly and completely spelled in the letter sent to me because it will reflect on my new identification card. I replied with, “My middle name or initial is missing.”

Since I was kinda eavesdropping, the man on the other table, who undergoes the same questioning as me, asked, “Hindi niyo ba talaga nilalagay ang middle name? (Do you really intend not to place the middle name?)”

Hearing myself and the man’s reply, I can say that you will know a person’s love for his/her mother when he/she demands for that middle name or initial. I know it is not much proof, but it is somehow significant.

I know it is only a single letter in my name, but that means so much to me as a child of my mother. That letter is the only visible thing in my name that proves who my mother is.

I remember a College Professor who once said, “Do not ever forget to write your middle initial. It’s a sign of respect and appreciation to your mother.” And I believe him, because it is true.

“Do not ever forget to write your middle initial. It’s a sign of respect and appreciation to your mother.”

My mother carried me in her womb for nine months, painfully gave birth to me, and sustains me with all my basic needs and event wants for 27 years now. Isn’t it only fitting that I would want to recognize her as part of me?

Honor Your Father and Your Mother. This is one of the 10 Commandments. If I honor my father by keeping and protecting his name, then it is only right that I demand to have my mother’s name with me even if it is just a single letter. It may only be an initial, but it means so much when you really love your mother.

I love you, Ma!


Chase and Catch

Allow me to be very open with you (in this post), folks. The past years were tough in the area of dating and relationships with the opposite sex. Being beautiful, faithful and successful (ehem) has a very high toll you know. People are expecting me to be dating good men, but sadly, I didn’t. I failed in that area. 

Never heard about this, eh? ‘Coz I don’t post it on social media. 😂  Since I am secretive and proud, I’m not the kind who would share what I’m going through with anyone (until I stumbled). I won’t go into details about these past experiences and hurts of mine, but I’ll share with you what I learned (the hard way) in this area.

1. Never ever let your guard down. I learned this in Muay Thai, but I failed to apply it in practice. I keep on saying my heart was guarded, not knowing that my heart have already been opened wide and ready to be torn apart. I thought I was still guarded even after the first date, but nah, I let my guard down the moment I first replied with a “Hi” and stayed up late for midnight chats. 😂 Save yourself from heartaches and eyebags. Be with someone who would take time to talk with you eye-to-eye rather than someone who will cause additional weight to your eyebags. You are meant to be protected!

2. Never ever run a race not worth running. If it is not worth it, stop. I can run for hours in the treadmill ‘coz its for my fitness. But, running after someone? No way! Do you think God will be pleased seeing you run after a frog when there are princes available around? You are meant to be pursued!

3. Never ever pursue what is not meant for you. How did I know that it was not meant for me? I asked God, though I should have asked God first before I put on that running shoes and had that first step (but still it was better late than never). You are meant to obey God!

4. Never ever hold on to what is meant to be let go of. How will I know that it is already time to let go? Ask what will make God smile, running away or staying? I chose the former, and I can feel God’s pleasure when I did that. You are meant to be free from worry and pain!

5. Never ever attach yourself to temporary things, choose what will stay. I loved the “goodmornings” and “goodnights” messages, but I’d rather say “goodbye” than settle for what I know is not meant to last. You are meant to be loved forever!

6. Never ever settle for an “almost” and a “maybe”, choose what is “always” and “sure”. Do I even have to explain this? 😂 But seriously, don’t settle for what will make you wonder (and worry) about your future. Be with someone who you can see and build your future around with. You are meant to be secured!

7. Never ever settle for the pressure around you. If you are 27 and surrounded by older people, you will receive daily unwelcome advices. Just know when (and who) to listen! You are meant for God’s best at God’s perfect time, so don’t be pressured by others’ opinion and your biological clock!

Again, I’ve learned these things the hard way, and (after a haircut) I am now moving on and okay again for dating, hoping that this time I’ll do it right. I hope this post helps you. 😊

P.S. Remember what they say about having so many fish in the ocean? You are not the one supposed to chase and catch the fish. You are one of those fish. You are meant to be braved the waters with and to be patiently catched! You are a good catch, darling. (Just be careful with the baits. 😉)


Cure for the Insecure

It’s officially summer here in the Philippines! Summer means having sun-kissed skin and extra-bodyweight, at least for me (because I once heard someone who said that if you have not gained weight or have darker skin during summer that means you have not enjoyed the season). Having been to the beach already, I now have a darker complexion compared to my natural skin color. In just a week, I already heard of countless compliments from different girl friends even from strangers on how they like my “tan”. I really love having this I-went-to-the-beachskin.

One thing bothers me about having this temporary complexion is that I cannot understand why the women who say they like my summer tan are also the same women who are after having fairer skin. In fact, I even heard one who informed me before that she envies women like me who were born with naturally fair skin. Now that my skin is no longer fair due to constant sun exposure, she still envies me? She envies me when I’m fair and she envies me now that I have a tan complexion. Obviously, the problem is not with my skin color.

Whenever people tells me that I’m getting fat, I only replied with, “Did I get ugly?” because why would I fret being fat? Fats can only make me look unfit but never ugly. So, when insecure women tell me I get darker, I also respond with, “Am I ugly with this skin color?” because then again, I know I’m beautiful in whatever shape, size and color. Don’t get me wrong here. The beauty that I’m talking about goes beyond what meets the eye.


Acceptance, Confidence, and Security are the things I know (and have) that battle and cure one of the cancers of society called Insecurity.

The society can never have a single standard for beauty, but you can always ACCEPT your own beauty. There are women who wants fairer skin because they have brown complexion, while women who are fair uses tanning lotions to get darker skin. See? Why not accept your own color? or your weight? At least there’s one person in this world who accepts your beauty for whatever it is.

It takes CONFIDENCE to show that you have fully accepted your own beauty. Even when the weighing scale told me that I’m already obese, I still confidently wear cute girly dresses. Even when I am surrounded by long-legged ladies, I still confidently walk around them with my chin up, chest out and my flabby stomach in. Why would I let other people stop me from showing the “fearfully and wonderfully made” creation of God in me? If you know and believe that God created all things as good, pleasing and perfect, then why will you be insecure? Aren’t you created by God too?

When I came back after my summer getaway, I showed some of my pictures to my mother. I told her that those pictures are unfiltered because the beauty of the place does not need to be filtered. Then she told me that I should have filtered my size. Ouch! What a comment from my own mother! If I am insecure, I could have been offended by those words. But, nah! I took that lightly. Why? Because I look like my mother, if she calls me ugly or fat, then I can just say, “I look like you, Ma. If I’m ugly that is because you are ugly” and we would just laugh at it.

In the same way, if we know and believe that we are the daughters of the King of kings, then we should act likewise. Is there a princess who is insecure of her status? If the all-powerful God is your dad, then will there be anything to be insecure of? I hope that when you finally have an answer to this question, you’ll be able to accept your own kind of beauty, walk confidently in it, and be secured with the fact that you are God’s masterpiece.

Be secured with the fact that you are God’s masterpiece.

“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Solomon 4:7

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” – Psalm 139:14

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” – 2 Corinthians 4:16



Cheers to all women who embrace the notions that (1) freedom is a personal choice, (2) equality does not equate to similarity, and (3) happiness can be found/created wherever they are. Happy International Women’s Day!

#InternationalWomensDay2017 #Forward2oi7💃


Hello, #Forward2oi7

Another year, another beginning.

New hope, new seasons.

This is the year that the Lord has made!

I will praise and delight of its days.

I will be expectant and excited.

I will be faithful and forgiving.

I will persevere and be patient.

I will trust and obey the Lord.

I will make my days count.

I will say “No” to disposable relationships.

I will say “Yes” to God’s Grace.

I will let go of the past hurts and bitterness.

I will move on to where God will take me, as I #Forward2oi7


Surely, Someday

The rain is pouring out

Giving chills to my warm heart

Through the window pane

Thoughts flooded my brain
Maybe somewhere in a faraway land

Someone is meant to hold my hand

To comfort in pains, to correct the wrongs

To breathe fresh air into the lungs
To watch sunsets and sunrise

To dry the tears from my eyes

To share the hopes of tommorow

To connect deeply through the skin down to the marrow
To witness the skies turned gray to clear

To sing lullabies and music to the ear

To witness the blooming and fading of a rose

To bring tickle and aroma to the nose
To cross borders and boulders

To rest my head on his shoulders

To bring out each other’s best

Or to simply lie on his chest
To drink tea, coffee or wine

To wrap his arms around my spine

To share secrets and cooking tips

To bring thousand kisses to the lips
We may be separated now by oceans or just a river

Like blood knows its path to the liver,

I know our feet will find its way

Not maybe, but surely, someday.


I can Only Hope: An Open Letter to my Grade 11 Earth Science students

Today, we reach the end of our Earth Science class. As your teacher, I can only hope for the best of you and your future.

I hope you learn from our lessons and the activities we have in this subject. More importantly, I hope you will apply all these learning in your life.

I hope that every time you look at the stars at night, you will remember the gases that formed it and the supernova that will end its life.

I hope that as you walk on rocks, you will remember that it is not only there for us to step on; it contains minerals and even our Earth’s history.

I hope that whenever it rains, you’ll remember why it has to fall.

I hope that when you’re out on a beach and it’s very hot, you’ll recall how the heat of the sun takes away the waters of our oceans and how it will return again to us.

I hope that you will not only see land as something dirty, instead you will appreciate and take care of it to prevent weathering, erosion, and mass wasting.

I hope that you travel someday and see a lot more of our Earth, and the universe even more. As you do so, I hope when you see Mayon Volcano or any mountain, you will remember how it was formed and the endogenic processes that made the mountains stand.

I hope that when you cross oceans, you will remember that underneath the deep blue seas are ridges and seafloor that spreads due to the intense heat beneath the crust.

I hope that you’ll visit other countries and continents, and remember that the world’s land pieces were once together. And someday, it will get back together.

I hope you’ll remember how vast our expanding universe is and where in this vastness you belong.

I hope you’ll always remember that if the stars are born with such precision (not just by any luck or any chance), you were also created with a reason and perfection.

And if, the rocks exist for an awesome purpose, then you as a human has all the more reason to live and not just exist.

I hope you will see and appreciate the Earth more than what you learned from our class.

I hope you’ll realize that the Earth is the only planet where humans live….

…and it’s the only planet with oxygen, chocolates and love. 🙂

Lastly, I hope one day when you have seen and explored more of the Earth, you’ll be able to remember me and say to yourself, “’eto pala yung pinag-aralan namin sa Earth Science ni Miss Ram.”

I can only teach you the basics and what the books and researches have said. But honestly, I know that what I shared with you in class are not (and will never be) enough.

You’ll never know the Science of the Earth, until you learn to explore it yourself.

– Teacher Ram