Cure for the Insecure

It’s officially summer here in the Philippines! Summer means having sun-kissed skin and extra-bodyweight, at least for me (because I once heard someone who said that if you have not gained weight or have darker skin during summer that means you have not enjoyed the season). Having been to the beach already, I now have a darker complexion compared to my natural skin color. In just a week, I already heard of countless compliments from different girl friends even from strangers on how they like my “tan”. I really love having this I-went-to-the-beachskin.

One thing bothers me about having this temporary complexion is that I cannot understand why the women who say they like my summer tan are also the same women who are after having fairer skin. In fact, I even heard one who informed me before that she envies women like me who were born with naturally fair skin. Now that my skin is no longer fair due to constant sun exposure, she still envies me? She envies me when I’m fair and she envies me now that I have a tan complexion. Obviously, the problem is not with my skin color.

Whenever people tells me that I’m getting fat, I only replied with, “Did I get ugly?” because why would I fret being fat? Fats can only make me look unfit but never ugly. So, when insecure women tell me I get darker, I also respond with, “Am I ugly with this skin color?” because then again, I know I’m beautiful in whatever shape, size and color. Don’t get me wrong here. The beauty that I’m talking about goes beyond what meets the eye.


Acceptance, Confidence, and Security are the things I know (and have) that battle and cure one of the cancers of society called Insecurity.

The society can never have a single standard for beauty, but you can always ACCEPT your own beauty. There are women who wants fairer skin because they have brown complexion, while women who are fair uses tanning lotions to get darker skin. See? Why not accept your own color? or your weight? At least there’s one person in this world who accepts your beauty for whatever it is.

It takes CONFIDENCE to show that you have fully accepted your own beauty. Even when the weighing scale told me that I’m already obese, I still confidently wear cute girly dresses. Even when I am surrounded by long-legged ladies, I still confidently walk around them with my chin up, chest out and my flabby stomach in. Why would I let other people stop me from showing the “fearfully and wonderfully made” creation of God in me? If you know and believe that God created all things as good, pleasing and perfect, then why will you be insecure? Aren’t you created by God too?

When I came back after my summer getaway, I showed some of my pictures to my mother. I told her that those pictures are unfiltered because the beauty of the place does not need to be filtered. Then she told me that I should have filtered my size. Ouch! What a comment from my own mother! If I am insecure, I could have been offended by those words. But, nah! I took that lightly. Why? Because I look like my mother, if she calls me ugly or fat, then I can just say, “I look like you, Ma. If I’m ugly that is because you are ugly” and we would just laugh at it.

In the same way, if we know and believe that we are the daughters of the King of kings, then we should act likewise. Is there a princess who is insecure of her status? If the all-powerful God is your dad, then will there be anything to be insecure of? I hope that when you finally have an answer to this question, you’ll be able to accept your own kind of beauty, walk confidently in it, and be secured with the fact that you are God’s masterpiece.

Be secured with the fact that you are God’s masterpiece.

“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Solomon 4:7

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” – Psalm 139:14

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” – 2 Corinthians 4:16

Our CROWN. His Glory.

Ptr. Joey Bonifacio on his Lego Principle book showed a meaningful definition of discipleship. He wrote that “Discipleship is a Relationship”. It is a God-centered and serving-others relationship. Our Life Groups in Victory Alabang Youth Service  practice this kind of relationship. We are not just friends inside the corners of our meeting place every weekend, but we are also sisters whether together or apart. We make time for each other, fellowship with one another, worship together, pray with one another, and grow and mature together in the love  that binds us all – the love of Christ and our love for Him.

 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another… – Hebrews 10: 24-25

60 young girls, 8 different Life Groups, 12 Life Group Leaders,  1 Campus Missionary, 1 God and 1 purpose – Unite all things in Christ Jesus.

“to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment–to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.”- Ephesians 1:10

It was a rainy Sunday, March 3, 2013, when me and my Victory Group sisters headed by our leader Ms. Rina Amoranto, a LIFEBox Campus Missionary, went to Sunken Garden, Muntinlupa City to meet the young generation of Christian women for our Life Groups teambuilding. The weather may not be so good, but the determination, passion and desires of these young ladies cannot be contained, so rain or shine, we made our purpose fulfilled.

 After months of preparation and prayers, our teambuilding transpired and was successful. We all meet in VCF Center, Festival Mall, Alabang where the girls were divided into 4 groups containing 12  members each. They were given clues on what to do and where to go for their Amazing Race. Upon finishing the race, leaders were assigned to them and the challenges begin with Cheerdance Competition showcasing God-given talents and abilities to these young girls followed by numerous holistic fun games and activities.

With all the fun that we had for this day, we never forget to be still and hear the word of God. We were privileged to have a guest speaker for our teambuilding Ms. Wenicar Orbedoza, who graciously reminded us that we are princesses of God, that we wear a crown given to us by our Father, the King of all Kings.

You will be a crown of splendor in the Lord’s hand,
a royal diadem in the hand of your God. – Isaiah 62:3


Confidence – We are confident to come before God as His princesses and co-heirs in Christ.

Respect – We are worthy of utmost respect and love, for we are purchased by the blood of Christ.

Obedience – We are to obey the Father as Christ obeyed Him.

Winsome – We win people in Christ with what we do and what we say. We are not stumbling block to other fellow girls, but building blocks to Christ.

Name above all names: Jesus – We live according to our relationship with Jesus. We bear the name that is above all names. We thrive to be holy for our God is holy. We represent the Kingdom of God as princesses and ambassadress of Christ here on earth.

Our crown is a symbol of being united with the Father, that we are co-heirs in Christ Jesus. We never let our crown down, we check it all times to see if its in place, and when it falls, by the grace of God, we put it back to where it belongs. And no matter how much the world will try to steal this crown from us, we are assured that as long as we are in Christ and we have each other to support and encourage, this crown will never be stolen or destroyed.

The love that we feel from God and the love that we have for each other compels us to do this, to build the next generation of young women in faith, integrity, love and service to God and one another by fellowship and discipleship, a lifelong relationship.

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live.. Then they can train the younger women… to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, … so that no one will malign the word of God. – Titus 2:3-5

We end the teambuilding by honoring one another, recognizing those girls who showed excellence by giving awards and prizes and reminding each other to always wear our crowns, to keep our faith within and to never fail to bring back all the glory and praise to God.

Our Life Groups exist to Honor God and Make Disciples.

Onward mighty women of faith with the crown of His glory.