Reflection on Chats, Small Talks, and Random Conversations in Dating and Marriage…
In the latter part of our engagement and first months of our marriage, Julius and I started practicing full transparency with each other. We share all the passwords, and we have given each other access to all our social media and bank accounts.
At first it was hard and very difficult for me to have someone read ALL my messages with other people specially those from my previous conversations. I was also scared that he may not understand the context of my conversations and he might judge me based on what I’ve said or who I was communicating with back then. But, I’m so thankful that Julius never judged me for my colorful past life in the same way I accepted his.
However, one thing Julius did after we officially wed is that he “blocked” or removed some people on my Facebook friends list and asked me not to communicate with those people anymore. I believe that He was wise in that action. He also told me not to use some words or phrases when conversing to others most especially to my ‘male’ friends. He told me how inappropriate those words are and that it won’t sound right for a married woman to say such words.
I cannot contest to my husband’s wisdom because the Lord says, “submit to your husband in everything“.😉 (Ephesians 5:24)
As I was studying the account of the first married couple in the Bible, Adam and Eve, I realized that if only Adam forbid his wife from having a small talk with the serpent, then she would not have been lured by it. If only Adam did not fail to stop his wife, then both of them could have been spared from sinning.
What Adam failed to do was to protect his wife from the tempting small talk that caused mankind’s eternal damnation.
With this revelation, I am grateful that my husband protects me and shields me from conversations, be it a deep one or a simple chitchat, that might lead into sin.
Truly, it matters who you marry!
Disclaimer to the SINGLES out there:
There’s a borderline between insecurity and accountability. You should not just share everything that you have to your partner out of transparency reasons or to prevent (treat) jealousy.
Ladies, you are not yet to submit. And Gents, you are not yet to lord. 😊